"Healing Shame: Understand and Transform "
Presented by Sheila Rubin, LMFT, RDT/BCT and Bret Lyon, Ph.D., SEP, BCC
1:30 p.m. - 5:00 p.m. |3 CEs | Level of Learning: All Levels
Shame is perhaps the most painful of all emotions. It is at the root of both the inner critic and perfectionism. It binds with and hides behind other emotions, such as anger and fear, so that it is often hard to detect. Shame cannot be worked with in the same way as the other primary emotions. In this presentation, you will become aware of shame as both a primary emotion and a freeze state, which has a profound effect on personal development and relationship success, and we will model how to counter shame in therapy.
Upon completion of this workshop, attendees will be able to:
- Identify two major characteristics of shame.
- Name the differences between shame and other primary emotions.
- Name the four basic reactions to shame and the characteristics of each reaction.
- Identify three techniques to counter feelings of shame.
- Describe strategies to get though shame defenses of over-verbalization, dissociation and freezing.
- Utilize four realms of human experience—Cognitive, Somatic-Emotional, Imaginal and Interpersonal—to create optimal distance from shame.
- Identify the differences between healthy shame and toxic shame.
- List six characteristics of healthy shame.
Sheila Rubin, LMFT, RDT/BCT, is an author and leading authority on healing shame. She is co-director of the Center for Healing Shame, a continuing education provider in Berkeley, CA, and co-creator of the Lyon/Rubin method for working with shame. Rubin developed and has co-led Healing Shame workshops for therapists for over ten years. Rubin integrates AEDP, EFT, Drama Therapy and somatics to work with the all-pervasive shame that underlies eating disorders, addiction and toxic family dynamics. During the last 25 years she has presented internationally and worked in hospitals, private practice, and served as adjunct faculty at JFK University and California Institute of Integral Studies.
Bret Lyon, Ph.D., SEP, BCC, is a leading authority on shame and co-director of the Center for Healing Shame in Berkeley, CA. He developed and has been co-leading Healing Shame workshops for over ten years in many cities in the US and Canada. Lyon has been a teacher of Somatic and Emotional Mindfulness for over 30 years and holds doctorates in both Psychology and Drama. He is certified in Focusing and Somatic Experiencing® and has trained in EFT with Sue Johnson, in AEDP with Diana Fosha, and in Coherence Therapy with Bruce Ecker. Bret is a Board Certified Coach.