Diane Gleim, LMFT, 2027 Conference Speaker
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Diane Gleim
 

Diane Gleim, LMFT    
 

 

 

Diane Gleim is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor practicing online and in-person in Santa Rosa, California.  As the first Certified Sex Therapist in Sonoma County, Diane treats the many diverse issues related to sexual identity, sexual expression, sexual behavior, and sexual relationships. Her clients include everyone ages 18-85+ with a sexual concern: individuals, couples, and the LGBTQ+, kinky, and poly populations. In addition to her private practice, Diane’s work also includes providing trainings and consultations; writing the blog Underneath the Sheets for Psychology Today; and supervising sex-therapists-in-training for AASECT certification. She has  been quoted in the press and a guest on podcasts. Diane has been voted Sonoma County’s Best Sex Therapist by the readers of the North Bay Bohemian eight times.    

 

 

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What We Don’t Do In the Dark: Working with Couples Stuck in the Desire Discrepancy Stalemate           

Date:   May 1, 2027

Time:   4:00 pm - 5:30 pm

CEs:   1.5

 

 

Description:

Couples with sexual desire discrepancies is one of the most common presenting problems in sex and couples therapy. Sometimes called mismatched desire, couples can struggle with this issue for years before seeking professional help, and those years of struggle can create additional layers of damage on top of the sexual gridlock. An experienced couples therapist also sees how relationship dynamics outside the bedroom can impact a couple’s dynamics inside the bedroom. But where do you start? What do you give emphasis to? How do you stay neutral? As a couples therapist, you may intrinsically know that you need to get the couple out of their standoff and get them to engage with each other in a new way. But how? In this 90-minute presentation, attendees will walk away with an overview on how to treat this complex, nuanced issue and identify areas they may have previously overlooked. 

Learning Objectives:

By the end of this session, participants will be able to:  

  • Define what a desire discrepancy is and is not in couples therapy.        
  • Name four areas of assessment in the couples’ relationship that may be factors in their desire discrepancy.      
  • Describe why individual sessions with each partner are helpful in assessing the issue.   
  • Identify two ways when the therapist’s own countertransference may be impacting treatment. 
  • Identify at least one way when a couple may be caught in a common relationship pattern that is negatively affecting their shared erotic life.
 

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